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It's called the "holiday paradox"—the more everyone expects us to be joyful, the heavier sadness can feel. This season can feel more like emotional whiplash than a celebration. But why does this happen, especially when we're "supposed" to be happy? The Hidden Gaps That Deepen the Blue 1. The Comparison Gap: Reality vs. The Highlight Reel We're surrounded [...]
At first glance, everything seems fine. You’re showing up. Meeting deadlines. Helping everyone. Smiling. You might even be the person others depend on most. But inside? You’re exhausted. You feel like you're running on fumes — emotionally numb, quietly anxious, maybe even resentful. Still, you keep saying “yes.” You keep delivering. You keep [...]
Narcissistic abuse is a form of psychological and emotional manipulation that can leave deep scars, yet it often goes unnoticed or unaddressed in Asian communities. Cultural values such as filial piety, collectivism, and the emphasis on maintaining family honor can create an environment where abuse is normalized, dismissed, or even justified. As a result, many [...]
"Where are you really from?" It's a question many Asian individuals hear countless times throughout their lives. While seemingly innocuous, this seemingly simple inquiry carries a heavy weight, subtly communicating that they are not seen as truly belonging. This is just one example of a microaggression – a brief, everyday slight, insult, or subtle message that [...]
In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), Qi is considered our vital life force, the energy that flows through our bodies, governing physical, emotional, and mental processes. This energy isn't confined within us; it radiates outwards, influencing our interactions with the world around us. Your Energy Precedes You: Have you ever met someone and immediately felt a [...]
Introduction Generational trauma, also known as intergenerational or transgenerational trauma, refers to the psychological and emotional effects of trauma that are passed down from one generation to the next. This type of trauma can significantly impact individuals and families, influencing behaviors, beliefs, and mental health across generations. For many in the [...]
I would like to introduce a therapy modality called Transactional Analysis (TA) that has been close to my heart. I have been using TA to help clients to explore their adverse child experiences and how these have influenced and affected us as adults: The Three key factors of TA are life scripts, drivers and injunctions. Life scripts come from how we view the world [...]
In recent years, the issue of work burnout has become increasingly prevalent among young Asians, both in Asia and in the Asian American community. The pressures of achieving career success, combined with cultural expectations and modern workplace demands, have created a perfect storm for burnout. This article explores the causes and impact of work burnout on young [...]
Everybody has different ways of accepting losses whether coming to terms with them or even struggling with them. Counselor Jumh Tantri takes you through the stages of grief to help you learn how to grieve naturally, with permission, and with compassion. Everybody has different ways of accepting losses whether coming to terms with them or even struggling with them. [...]